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From Comments: Secondary Victimization causes people with mental handicaps to become isolated from society, both due to social rejection by others, as well as for safety from abusers who take advantage of their vulnerability-- or who simply refuse to respect the hurting person's vulnerability because of stigma or to gain power. In sum, people with mental handicaps are the most oppressed group in society, since they are most powerless, and society does not always effectively give them the support and protection given to other groups who need it.

As a result, Victim-blaming and Secondary Victimization are common against those with mental handicaps, even by their own families; meanwhile others reject them from consideration of any relationship-- even by public servants who take advantage of the person's political powerlessness to refuse assistance, such as police or other refusing protection based on their own disdain.

This is a common abuse of power, which is why the mentally ill were the first victims of the Holocaust. Yes, it's always easier to blame the victim than the perpetrator, and people with mental handicaps are the most disadvantaged group, due to stigma, poverty, vulnerability, isolation and powerlessness; i.e. the laws are stacked against them, and they can't access the legal system as well as most others. Also it's always easy to claim that the person is deriving "secondary gains" from it-- i.e. trying to manipulate people by exhibiting symptoms.This abuse is seen in any power-based regime--including families.

Blaming the victim are doctrines found all through the DSM of the psychiatric association. It's influenced throughout the world by many simple things spoken that actually silences the witness or victim of any foul play. Society is actually taught to attack those who are weakened and deem them the undesirables. Many things in the DSM label those who are victimized as though they are the ones to be blamed. Basically the system is saying, it's your fault your hurt, no one can hurt you unless you allow it, sad...

[Tell that to a three-year-old child.] Again, this is victim-blaming, and it goes back to the days when people were said to be "possessed by demons" and were persecuted for "dealing with Satan" etc. Later, they were said to be "faking it" in order to get out of work, etc. This also leads to "secondary victimization," i.e. persecuting the person for their condition in various ways.

It's important to realize you have a real condition, and to seek proper medical treatment as well as support. Avoid those who blame you for it!

This is called "victim-blaming," i.e. a tendency to blame the victim for their condition, and then "secondary victimization," i.e. persecuting them even more. Essentially we live in a society that carries the values of Social Darwinism, i.e. "survival of the fittest," and so those who have unrecognized conditions are held to be "faking it." This becomes a vicious cycle, since PTSD is increased by helplessness and persecution, and the victim is basically left powerless and without any hope.

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Remember the initial cause of the problem was NOT in you and even if it was NO ONE has the right to abuse you, control you, victimize you. You do not have to be anyone's scapegoat. Let them face their own shadows and be responsible for their own actions.