True Transformation: Mutuality of Love

True Transformation: Mutuality of Love

The prevailing D/s mythology in mental health denies not only the possibility of constructive suffering, but pathologizes the very notion that pain and suffering have any positive transformative power.

“In clinical work, mental health professionals are often asked to evaluate or testify on the “health” of a relationship or individual in an effort to address fears of abuse or domestic violence. Relationships that fall under the broad umbrella of Dominance and submission (D/s) (such as Master/ slave, Owner/property, Daddy/girl, Sir/boy, etc.) are commonly perceived as more difficult to evaluate than relationships that involve the more overt understanding of it.

This presentation aims to give guidelines, language, and theory to guide professionals and laypeople through an evaluative process that is often colored by the maladaptive experiential avoidance of pain and suffering by both the client and the professional. Various elements of D/s relationships seem to generate the most difficulty, often because they directly contradict and explicitly challenge the prevailing professional and cultural narratives around consent and power. The prevailing mythology in mental health denies not only the possibility of constructive suffering, but pathologizes the very notion that pain and suffering have any positive transformative power. Issues that will be addressed include, but are not limited to; 24/7 Lifestyle, Total Power Exchange (TPE), Family and Children, Non-Monogamy, and Safewords. The constructs of Gender, Race, and Consent will also be examined and addressed as part of the perceptions of what makes up a “healthy” or “unhealthy” relationship in a D/s context”.

~David Rodemaker, Beyond Consent: A New Paradigm for Domestic Violence and Master/slave Relationships” -Thursday, May 24th, 2012[http://entelekea.com/blog/?p=196]

I find many of the discussions of this in relationship to ‘The Trinity’ of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob to be the height of satanic blasphemy which greatly dishonor and demean God’s love relationship with each of us.  It is to be noted that 

“Hegel really did have a secret, and . . . it has been well kept. The secret, abruptly stated, is that Hegel was an atheist. His ‘Christianity’ is nothing but nominal, an elaborate subterfuge to protect his professional ambitions..”

For the Christian it is an amazing realization that the God of the universe has a personal committed covenant relationship with each of us.  It is one of absolute love mutuality from God’s side.  It is the foundation of what it means to be a Christian.  “I call you, friend.”  “No greater love has any man than this that he would lay down his life for his friend.”  Jesus Christ did just that: as God and as man.  Christian transformation through suffering brings life, love, redemption and joy.  Living in the truth means ‘mutual submission’ through God’s love for the other.  Love is kind, is not jealous,.... 

Any type of ‘enslavement’ of another human being is evil and demeaning.  God’s will is freedom and love for every human being.  Fundamentally it is a choice between love and power.  When it comes to that in any relationship it is a choice between accepting God as God or a rebellion against God as God.  He gives the choice.  He does not 'force' us.  We may not understand what God asks of us in our daily lives but He absolutely loves us and will never leave us.